It’s not about Perfection

I’m sure you’ve noticed our culture’s obsession with perfection, but what is perfection? Has anyone been able to define it? Has anyone been able to achieve it and for how long?

I don’t think anyone knows what perfection actually is.

“Perfect” is what we believe we must be in order to not feel hurt/ betrayed/ rejected/ abandoned… you name it.

Perfection is the dream of perpetual bliss and happiness, a dream we must wake up from if we are to truly live.

A lot of people think that their romantic partner wants them to be perfect, but this cannot be further from the truth. What makes relationships really work is being human, and being more and more at peace with our humanity and its limitations.

Perfection and our attempts to be perfect are the reasons why many relationships fail.

The more we focus on being “perfect,” the more acutely we recognize how much and how often we fall short of this ideal. The more we focus on our “faults” and “failures,” the more anxious we become and the more likely it is that we are going to “mess up” again and again because of this performance anxiety.

I work everyday with people who struggle with unworthiness, anxiety, and perfectionism. As we explore their wounding and the dynamics of their childhood, they get to see very clearly where this pressure comes from. The healing and freedom they access through this exploration is often immensely beautiful.

Now they can be themselves without having to perform or to please others. Such peace and natural self-worth is our birthright.

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